Facebook Fake Friendships

Well, this post is about one of my experiment on facebook and the reasons why I am off from the facebook. Almost everyone have facebook accounts now. There are plenty of friends on everyone’s accounts. Some people adding friends blindly, some do concern the facts about friends when accepting requests. Same story for the privacy policy as well. Some don’t give any attention at all. In my case, I was on facebook since 2008. I have about 360 friends, all are known by me personally. 99% of my friends on facebook are known to by meeting them and I don’t add strangers at all. So basically I can call all of them as my friends. With spread of the facebook, people get use to it in order to keep in touch with people. Yes it is quite useful. You can chat with friends, send messages, group collaborations, flirting, games, apps blah blah blah. It looks cool in feature wise.

Apart from all those features and apps, my concern is on the application that is appeared on your top right hand side when you log on to facebook. Yes, it is the birthday reminder. With this tool the way that people wishing a friend on a birthday has changed. Earlier we meet friends, give a call and wish on his/her birthday. But with facebook people began to wish on facebook. Write on wall “Happy birthday!!!” , sending a message or flowers , teddy bears, etc. as a response normally  the receiver put a comment “Thank you” and later some people used to just click the “like” button also. Now you may think, so what? Anyway they have wished. Isn’t it? Yes. But the thing is how many people actually wish you in their heart? People just don’t care whose birthday is that. They just click on the birthday list appeared on facebook and do type “happy birthday” and do some ctrl+C and ctrl+V for the rest .Why I am saying so is in 2009 I got 2 wishes from facebook which looked very odd. Odd in the sense those two have wished someone else. They did wish for some other guy who had same first name as me. On that day I have informed those two that you have dialed the wrong number but in 2010 also I got the same result. That’s why I am saying that these facebook wishes are so FAKE. Some people do care but many would not do so. They are just clicking it.

According to my knowledge your best friends don’t need facebook to remember your birthday. But some friends that really care you may also use it too. This year I have removed my birthday from the facebook.it was just to see whether anyone notice my birthday on facebook. As expected no one wished me on facebook. In 2010 there were 212 wishes on my wall and 2011 nothing. This idea was come to me after reading this post by one of my friend. A script to wish on facebook. Ya you don’t need to waste clicks. Just put a bot there. It will do. Actually I am not using facebook now. I just didn’t delete my account as few friends who went abroad still send messages to it. So, no more time wasting on fb things. I know that few real friends of mine forgot to wish me on my birthday because of the deletion the birthday on facebook but still I know they really caring so I don’t expect them to remember my birthday. Also I got handful amount of  wishes apart from family. So without facebook also people care for me. So I am really happy about myself. I must say that I really don’t expect that everyone should remember the friend’s birthdays but I really hate the fake wishes. At least now I don’t get any fake wishes 🙂

The story was well explained on this blog post “The Loser’s Script – How to wish facebook friends on their birthdays automagically in linux” so I don’t explain it anymore. Now I am only using twitter as a social network. Twitter was completely a different experience for me. Because of twitter I made lot of caring friends. Firstly added as strangers but later become very close friends. Lot of my followers has helped me when I need help. No time waste as we do in facebook. Most importantly some friends on twitter have found my birthday even when I have hid is from the internet. In twitter I feel that relationships are much more genuine than facebook clicks. They are just clicks. So that’s about it. Leaving facebook  has helped me to save time , save mind from stupid comments  ,posts ,useless tags ,etc but unfortunately removing birthday has reduced the number of birthday gifts I receive normally 😦  but I know who are the people who needs me , who cares me even without the wishes or gifts.

What I believe is the human feelings do have a value you can’t just let it to be clicked blindly. If you really want to wish someone. Do it by your heart .spend some time for the people that you care. Don’t act as caring and keep click on the like button. So adios facebook. I am not an active user anymore: D