Monday 31 October 2011

The Lesser of Two Evils

Marrying someone you're not in love with to escape an alcoholic parent?

or

Living with an alcoholic parent and wait to marry someone you love?

13 comments:

cadence said...

oooh :S toughie.

very subjective and i will probably be of no help with this answer...

1. Love grows with time
2. Better the known parent than the unknown spouse? :S

After all, ur family will always get ur back.

Me said...

I think marrying someone you are not in love with is a bad call.

Marriage is tough enough when you love the person....

How about "taking it slow and MOVING IN" with the person said person is not in love with...and then, a few months later, the person moves in with a roommate or such?

Delilah said...

aw scrumpy :(

marrying someone you dont love is probably the bigger evil.
how about moving out on your own and waiting for someone you love?

indi said...

Moving out by yourself is probably the best option, but not an option for many people

Anonymous said...

Marrying someone you are not in love with, even as an escape, probably isn't a great idea. (See all the news on Kim Kardashian!)

I suppose if you can't move out, is the alcoholic a danger to YOU? (I'm sure either way emotionally, but physically?)

Such a hard call.

Jack Point said...

I'm also with the moving out option.

If its not a "sellable" option with the family, get a job far off (eg Glasgow) and move "because of the job").

Dee said...

Hi Scrumps..
Hang in there... since ur in the UK, is moving out a better option? maybe with a friend? Be careful cos marriage is marriage ...getting out of it is tough... big hug...!

crystal flame said...

I call for the moving out option too. Is that an option for you?
if not, I'd go with jack point's suggestion.
hang in there.. :)

Anonymous said...

i would do 1st option. love is a fairy tale you cant find it in reality.
marry the person who loves you not your in love with,because that person never ever runaway. what matters in marriage is understanding,trust,honesty not love.love plays only 25% of the marriage. after all time passes,once this passed you will never ever get back.

Anonymous said...

you the one who came up with this 2 options, so choose one, face the problem,do not try to avoid (like other people options)or runaway from your problem.
others can give you different options but your the one who has to live with the consequences of the decision.
this is a classic ex of failure to take decision due to autocratic south asian family system

Anonymous said...

always listen to your heart.do whatever it says.

santhoshi said...

Moving out might be a solution to think about scrumpy!

Scrumps said...

Anonymous 2: I don't think it's a classic example of failure to make a decision. I asked a question and received some answers. I don't plan on running away but these things take time to decide.