Complex society

Sri Lankan culture is very complex even the Buddhism’s is the base religion of the Sri Lankan society the cultural complexity is huge within the people. Unlike in Indian context where they have many more cultures and many different religious thought the cultural definitions is not that complex. However the reason for these complexities is miserable and hard to understand.
After many different foreign evasions the society had closed the door to new thinking patters and we tried to protect what we have and we started to think that what we think is the best. Especially when it comes to religion people think that being Buddhist is the rarest present which they got.
Well I think that the Kandyan era and kandyan thinking patter had influenced our culture more than any other thing. In fact the kandyan traditional structure is dirty and hard to imagine that Buddhists can behave like this. Especially in wedding issues this complexity and dirtiness come to the play and people struggle with what they should really do for the wedding.
Even thou we come to the 21st century people are vulnerable with the virginity, most of the married males are proud to prove that they got married a virgin. I remember once a male guy told me that it is risky to marry a female without virginity in Sri Lanka. And also the dowry which is dirty than any other thing in the weddings in Sri Lanka. My aunty is the middle child of eight members frailly but she couldn’t get married due to the dowry issue and still she is unmarried. However, it is very danger to get the dowry from the wife; I remember a married couple was fighting in the Kandy Colombo train about their dowry.
h- All the land belong to you but the business are belong to me they are developed by me by my hand you don’t come to tell me what to with them.
v- But those businesses come to you after you married me all the business come after I started feeding you therefore some parts of them belong to me also therefore don’t think about changing the property without my obligation.
H-ok good everything belong to you all I belong is this clothes and shoes tomorrow I will start a new business with them don’t come again
Sri |Lankan wedding system casting system is made with its own society. The economic background decide many more thing what to what to be in the open society. The cast system was heavily powerful in the Kandy. I remember when I was doing the measured drawing in my first year sitting and eating in the Ambalam floor made me low cast student and one of my friends’ mother refused to talk with me. Sometimes it is very hard do imagine the thinking pattern in Sri Lankan society people have different attitude for same thing. My grand father lives in Chilow in the upper part of the Sri Lanka in the early mooring we used to go fishing parties in the nearest beach at around 6.00 am we used start ride bicycles and it was ten kilometer journey. after we seek the beach my grand father never let me touch the fishing net because touching the fishing net can made me a own cast one.
Well I thing the cast system is danger than the virginity because now with the modern development the virginity is not a big deal for youths. But because of the parental influences the modern youths very much of vulnerable with the cast system. In fact in my university there are three girls who refused to stay in hostlers with low cast people and they change their hostel to their own private bodeem place where they can select who should come to their bodeem place.
For them it is not a big deal but for me it is weird sometimes I feel fishy with them even talking with makes me vomit. Because while I talk with them I used to imagine how fishy they are and how bad they are. But what to do it is very hard to change the society by my selves. Therefore with my experience Sri Lankan society is much more complex and dirty.